So now, after deciding that the poor are expendable for the sake of stopping overpopulation, suddenly the planners are worried about them — if it leads to their ability to raid our bank accounts. For more information on these recommendations, download: The fast-paced play, sensory stimulation, and never-ending cycle of betting and chasing losses have been proven time and again to be associated with high rates of problem gambling. Although this Bill does make some positive changes, for example, ban reproductive cloning, the legal precedent it will set with inheritable genetic modification could change forever the evolutionary history of Homo sapiens. I am a New Zealander and it is only because I had the great fortune to be born to a non citizen that I can agree with everything stated above.
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Firstly Nz immigration tourist visa resulting time is officially 20 working days on their website. While even that is a crazy long time, after my application I have received an email saying that New Zealand immigration is very busy and the visa application takes as much as two months at the moment what the…!!!! The only things kiwis like to screw more than sheep is working migrants. For a country with dual language national anthems, haka, Waitangi treaty etc it is full of racists.
While checking out from a hotel, I saw one friendly receptionist perhaps American at concierge who was more than happy to collect few suitcases from the room of one of the hotel guest and I was not surprised to see his colleague showing off eyes to not go beyond call of duty.
The drive to Wanaka was beautiful but small tiny little flies along the beach took away all the fun, their sting was so painful. Literally returned back to the car with 70 odd bites. House goes on the market in two weeks time! At least in Auckland you sure to get a quick sale and profit, my house in Whangarei took 7 years to sell! I just want to get out now. So this is my first time reading this blog. I thought I was alone. My husband and I came here 6 years ago from uk.
But not like this. We simply cannot afford another child. I work 11 hour days and my commute can sometimes be 2 and a half hours a day, one road in one road out! And I can survive this, just about. And the driving, well, it drives me insane. I really recently had my car totaled on the motorway by a non concentrating, tail gating idiot. After 13 years of driving with not one accident, I now have a totalled car and I have to get a loan to get a new one, cos the insurance sucks here! Leave now while you still can extract some money from your house.
The housing debacle is on the verge of tipping into the abyss. NZ will become the wild west as people realise they actually they are screwed due to the mountains of debt all have acumulated. In NZ there will be no walking away from this they will strip you of every asset and make you pay off the debt until you die. They will then probably try and pass it to you children by invoking some new law.
This includes any retirement funds you thought were safe. The game is over. Well that settles it then! As a New Zealander, your comments strike home. I remember a fairly innocuous comment during a World Cup querying why a cup of mediocre coffee cost more in Newmarket in Auckland than in Rome, and the writer copped a ton of abuse.
We Kiwis have a huge blind spot when it comes to ourselves. That goes some way to explaining the hypocritical outpouring of grief for John Clarke, who died today.
He was a brilliant comedian who was forced to ply his trade in Australia because TV in this country thought he was too political. What does it say about us that we let the NZBC drive talent offshore?
They have served to make me stronger in my resolve to go. I had to explain to my friends daughter not to go on holiday to turkey. I enjoyed reading your thread Lauren. Where I came from in the UK is actually a much more innocent place to raise children. I could give you a long list of unpleasant influences my children have been exposed to here in NZ. I am talking 13 year old children and the sort of stuff going on with their classmates, sex, drugs, suicide, depression, alcohol, late night parties etc Mothers taking their 13 year old daughters to get tattoos.
Obviously this stuff also exists in the UK, but not where I come from, at such a young age. Unfortunately in New Zealand it also appears to be widely spread in the rural small town as well where there are limited prospects and recreational activities for both young and older generations so drinking drugs and misbehaving become the norm…basically standards of behaviour have total gone to hell!. Hi George, where are you from in the uk?
I have seen it a little in whangaparaoa , but I know it exists in others areas outside mine, from what I read and from what friends tell me, and that was one of the reasons we have decided to go back to the uk.
I am from Sussex, Lauren. My children seem keen to shift back to the UK when they are older. They are sort of outsiders here but I expect they will feel the same there now. I have seen a few articles pop up on Reddit about the IQ points of NZ children dropping significantly such as this http: NZ school environments are not conducive for learning and brighter children often have to be quiet or dumb themselves down to be accepted by their peers to not become victims of Tall Poppy Syndrome.
My father asked our Chinese friend if she would consider moving to Australia or NZ from Southeast Asia, I remember her response being not until our children are over 18 because she knew many Chinese families whose children suffered greatly especially from the culture shock, bullying and declining educational standards.
It seems education and schooling are greatly declining in terms of their quality all over the world. The only way for children to truly excel and reach their full potential as critical thinkers and future leaders of the world is by homeschooling. Fortunately for people in NZ homeschool is legal. I really have had this existence up to the eyeballs.
Everyday is all about forcing one positive step forward. It sounds like madness, but I actually only have to leave our house once a month to keep things ticking over, but that is one too many times for me. Kiwis are the most angry, unhappy and soulless of people I have ever come across. Nobody looks strangers in the eye, and they are all stepping on each other in some small way. Every single time I am tailgated when I go out, my blood boils.
Not positive, I know, but there is something wrong here. Also, I distinctly remember seeing a lot of antisocial stuff in the EU, but it is all here too with extras. The difference is that the gangs here are so conspicuous and threatening. That is in these vans? Are the police part of it? Because I see and hear the bikes all through the day, but I have never seen a police car or anyone in uniform.
Do Kiwis have any self respect? I remember I had a bad day topped off with the ubiquitous social retard sniffing my arse for ten minutes. I needed to get it out of my system. I socialise with migrants and refugees which I highly recommend , and the cost of living, second only to alcohol abuse, is a common point that people want clarified. They think they are doing something wrong, somehow, because they can barely afford to eat properly!
Shame Kiwi future only seems to be reflecting current fabric of NZ society. I dont know where to begin so i will just randomly vent. I was born here in Auckland I am now trying to leave NZ as I cannot afford the housing here anymore. I earn a little over 50k a year. Now that the average crappy looking house is over and banks requiring 20 percent deposit on top of student loan debt I can not imagine a future in Nz without incurring huge debts.
I work for Govt department and was kept as a temp for over 2 years after uni. I took my company to court to keep my job. We had staff members killed within the last few years as the media have painted us as an enemy. From that I must save over k for my first home deposit. Even after saving that amount the bank told me my income could not support repayments crushing my dreams.
Growing up i have been assaulted by racist members of public. Police in nz are simply there to generate revenue. NZ is happy to have its citizens stretched to financial limits to repay national debt. Weekend nightlife at teen ages is all about fights drugs drinking in cbd area. Gangs use children to break into houses and commit crime as there are no repercussions.
I am Fijian by decent and even I can see how the law is designed to incriminate pacific people. Police hold checkpoints outside of university to target students. They stop pulling you over every day after age I live in Mt roskill which is close to a 1million dollar suburb. When I was around 10, houses were around k mark now the same houses are over a million. Income has not increased much over the period with the average educated person earning below 60k per year before taxes.
NZ is slowly pricing out its citizens and replacing it with wealthy migrants. Cheaper areas of nz have limited job opportunities. It is just mum and I. Mums sick and does not want to move. We grew up poor but this is not the life I imagined post 40k tertiary study. During uni I had to work full time to support mum. Welfare system is very soft but also very low.
Loan sharks exploit the vulnerable. Kiwis are huge on debt. Govt is all about looking good on global scale while people suffer. Media in NZ promotes National Party all for increased privatization.
Survival of the fittest etc. NZers told to save water whilst foreign companies can take the water we save and sell it overseas. Healthy food is expensive. Fizzy drinks are cheaper than water. Most nzers live on television as too broke to do anything else.
Govt is all about band aiding social issues until media move onto next irrelevant topic. Nothing ever gets done in nz just costs keep increasing. NZ pick and choose Scandinavian policies as it suits them but only as a check boxes. No real meaning behind their actions. Paula Bennet is the worse representative NZ could ask for and is now deputy prime minister without public support or consent.
No one ever has a burning passion or adequate knowledge to run Govt sectors but are recycled from areas outside of their expertise. NZ invests the minimum to future proof the country. Currently building roads expected to be done in10 years. By which time everything will be dug up again and redone as population increases.
NZ is all about money. Govt revealed raising super annuation age to NZ is great for those who purchased properties when they were cheap. Now Nz life is week to week paycheck to paycheck. I was born here did the norm that Kiwis do but life here will always be only about money. I believe I understand where you are coming from.
I, too, currently work for the New Zealand Government. No one above me seems to be answerable to anyone! Absenteeism is a constant problem because people simply hate the work environment and the meagre pay. And sadly this is reflective of the whole country of New Zealand. A non-caring society which is poor, tired, and in decline.
Can agree with this. I was born here too. Everything is too expensive. When I tell people I want to leave they ask why. Why leave the amazing country and live in somewhere really bad like Australia, USA, Canada… I live in a small town filled with cafes and hairdressers. They idolise sports people, and expect you to do the same. The Prime Minister wants it to look like New Zealand is a great country, filled with wonderful people, culture and scenery. Many New Zealanders find themselves in the situation however you will note the total lack of empathy or concern by the majority of commentators.
Get a better paying job which is laughable as there income is probably average 3. Stop spending money on any kind of perceived luxury i.
The core issues are living in New Zealand is expensive and wages are extremely poor. Hamilton living cost have shot up a lot in the last few years as more Aucklanders use it as a commuter belt, but the prices are quite shock. This assumes net earnings after income tax. You can change the amount in this calculation. Please read the comment guidelines again — the ones you agreed to abide with. Well this has been an interesting read. For years I applied for positions etc within New Zealand but to no avail.
I am starting to believe that after all the rejection, I possibly dodged a bullet! I agree that New Zealand is beautiful and I have developed some good friendships in my time here. However, there has always been a compromise that I have to bite my tongue on a variety of matters related to New Zealand. I have sold my soul to fit in here and I warn others that NZ will be a lonely and hostile place if you start speaking your mind in a way that you are used to in countries like the USA and UK.
However, I do take my hat off to some New Zealanders who speak their mind and must have the thickest skin. Millie Lovelock springs to mind who writes a column in the Otago Daily Times from the perspective of a student and gets a lot of hate for giving her honest opinion on matters such as Rugby, misogyny, the clean green myth etc.
A remarkably long-running dialogue. Full of problems with adaptation, broken dreams, bitterness, sense of betrayal, grass always greener somewhere else. I came here by choice 42 years ago. I left behind a secure executive role and a six-figure salary with a SF Bay Area company.
Family and friends thought I had completely lost the plot. Immigration was a major struggle. I specialise in cross-cultural studies, and I consult with companies that want to fast-track entry into China. I have traveled in more than 40 countries, and lived for a year or more in each of three Western and three Asian countries; I know that immigrants face a hard ride.
Emotionally and psychologically, Aotearoa-New Zealand is a crucible; everyone who comes here is tested. The strong adapt and grow stronger; the weak whinge and leave, usually within the first year or two. I accept all of the critiques of this country—and even though most are different from my own experience, I can easily understand how the negative side of some Kiwi core values could leave a bitter taste.
Is that why you must pimp New Zealand to overseas businesses to help ends meet? You describe a most unwholesome and unappealing situation. My spouse, by the way, has prospered in NZ. I ruined my life coming here.
Been here nine years, first in Wellington, then in a rural town not too far north. Fantastic scenery, open spaces and a great primary school — ideal for bringing up young kids in a free-range fashion. But once they hit 11 or 12 things go wrong. Under-stimulation, homogeneous culture, lack of intellectual ambition, etc. You can try hard, or not try at all, and the result is likely to be largely the same.
Untravelled Kiwis tend to be very much closed-in and uninterested in events or ideas outside their everyday lives. I like NZ in many ways and part of me will be sad to leave.
As for nature, NZ is utterly beautiful but appearances can be skin deep. Check out how many rivers are unsafe to swim in.
Before we moved here, a friend described NZ as being like a curry from which the chef had unaccountably left out the spices.
I knew what she meant within a month of moving here but was optimistic that the situation could change with effort.
That, I think, is largely a consequence of low population and remote location. You are so right. I, too, lived in NZ for 9 years and finally had to pull the plug. My experience was very similar to yours, except I had no children with me. So many of the rivers are polluted with agricultural runoff that you cannot swim in them due to algal blooms. The scenery is wonderful until you get close and see all the garbage the locals have dumped by the side of the roads, just like in South America or other parts of the world.
Kiwis are also rather racist, or more specifically xenophobic. There is essentially nothing I miss about New Zealand. It is too far from anything Air New Zealand has a virtual lock on air travel making getting there or leaving expensive ; the food is depressing and expensive why can I buy NZ lamb cheaper in California than I can in NZ?
After 9 years I was so happy to be back in the US, despite all the problems we have here. As others have echoed, I can work, live frugally and still save. NZ is set up for business people so they can write off every thing they spend money on. But for a wage earner, wear that yoke with pride. Or just leave for a better lifestyle. I completely agree with your earlier comment, the general atmosphere of most schools is slack and lazy. But my parents have been awful at teaching me about the sense of global community.
The school system is so fixated on teaching us badly about Maori culture that they forget to mention the rest of the world. I just want to get out, run, flee. But unfortunately the prices for flights say no. I can second this.
I live in New Zealand and have for my whole life. Rent is expensive, with or without roommates. Sure the scenery is nice. If you want to enjoy your life and appreciate what you have now, NZ is for you. We are a simple people with simple expectations. Leave us alone to live our lives in peace, free of international war mongering. New Zealand is the new Athens. You should read some ancient history. The truth is that even these simple expectations are expensive and such a basic expectation like a house would cost you a fortune and probably not only for you but for yr children as well.
I think your comment is a bit generous. I would change it to read….. NZ is one small crisis away from a major societal breakdown. A drop in house prices. Another big EQ and it will all be exposed.
Why do you think all the politicians are resigning and moving overseas. Its starting to spiral and there is nothing they can do about it. The cost of living is high and quality is poor, wages are low and taxes are high. We had a similar problem here in my home state in Australia, ie insured home owners subsidised uninsured home owners. The state government legislated to force all home owners to pay for the fire services through their property taxes.
If someone is overweight their BMI will be at 25 or more. In a study published in by the US Journal of Economics and Human Biology, obesity is found to have the largest impact on men aged over 75, and women aged between In , a study was conducted by the Australian Bureau of Statistics that compared the results of a survey with those conducted in the preceding 15 years.
The results showed an increase in the number and proportion of adults who are overweight or obese. Over the four surveys, the number of overweight or obese adults increased from 4.
In the National Health Survey, Victoria had the lowest incidence of obesity, at In a study conducted by The Obesity Society, between and , the adult population prevalence of normal healthy weight will decrease from In conjunction with this, the prevalence of obesity will increase from It is also estimated that by the time to year-olds of reach the age of , over one third will be obese.
This was attributed largely to an increase in the level of obesity from Age-standardization of the Australian Health Survey was done in a recent study which reported Indigenous Australians have Australia's highest level of obesity. The health and well being of Australian Indigenous youth is becoming increasingly concerning. With this high population of overweight and obese Indigenous youth, it puts major implications on the public health system.
Individuals who migrate to Australia moving from a low income nation, have a greater tendency to undergo an increase in weight.
First-generation immigrants to Australia are more obese and have higher rates of obesity-related behaviours than white Australians or Australians of foreign ancestry whose families have been in the country at least two generations. A study done by Nichols et al.
Among 2-year-old children, there was a decrease in the obesity of these children from Increased media attention on childhood obesity , in and especially, caused many researchers to print findings that the rate of obesity for children has reached a plateau  or that the claims are simply "exaggerated.
Rosanna Capolingua , President of the Australian Medical Association , to issue a statement admonishing people and media outlets for "trivialising" the issue. A Western Australian study Bell et al.
Overweight and obese children were more likely to complain and suffer from depression , anxiety , bullying, headaches, enuresis and musculoskeletal pain. The most common site of the musculoskeletal pain was in the knees with overweight children 1. Overweight and obese children also had significantly higher levels of hypertension control 3. This publication comes at a time when there is considerable public and political concern regarding the quality and effectiveness of mental health and related services in New Zealand.
This publication would be of interest to those involved in the study and practice of mental health but there are areas where a wider perspective could have been given. I believe knowledge of mental health and the detection and triage of mild to severe mental illnesses should be part of the skill set of any well-trained professional person working in any health, justice, social service, employment, recreational and sport group, or charitable or church organisation.
An opportunity was missed with this publication in leading the direction for the future, even if only a broad picture was painted, so that some sort of map could be seen.
This picture or image could then have provided a focal point of discussion and reference, and then people who have experienced the use of mental health and related services could contribute, and their families, significant others and workmates, friends and different communities could contribute, so that the ownership of mental health and wellbeing is a community and societal responsibility, not just the domain of those who are masters and mistresses of their craft. Transformational change occurs by interaction, reaction, dialogue and a commitment by way of action for change.
He might have been too scared to tell his teacher that he was being picked on. After the bullies teased him and he fell in the puddle when he was pretending to be a crusader, Holly helped him. She told him it is OK to tell someone. The bullies actually turned out to be nice too.
They were also picked on. What makes it even harder for Ace is he is called names by the Boot Boys, a group of horses who push and shove and say mean things to him.
Ace finally gets to live his dream of being a Crusaders horse, and along the way he is helped by the wise Holly who helps him tell his teacher about what is happening and how sad he is. As it transpired the Boot Boys were also bullied, so everyone learnt something about themselves and each other. The illustrations are wonderful. The drawings are colourful and not overly complex. The layout is excellent, with a beautiful bright picture to go with every written page.
This is a great little book if you are looking for a simple story to help your child deal with being bullied and ridiculed. It is non-confrontational and it relays a gentle and compelling message about how it is OK to be different and most importantly having big dreams is actually very cool! The book is based on 25 years of tried and tested methods of dealing with anxiety. I have learnt many new techniques from this book and will buy myself a copy to keep as a handy reference.
An example of a technique is to set up a log to keep track of the relationship between your thoughts and when you feel anxious. This technique really helped me see when I am responding in a habitual way that might be unhelpful, and similarly to spot positive responses that build my resilience.
Each chapter is easy to read and understand with a few illustrated animations. The book gives practical advice in bite-size chunks and can be used in different ways. For example, you can stick with one chapter a day or read a few chapters at a time. It is a great book to just dip in and out of as and when you need it. I believe it would be accessible to most people due to its simple, approachable format. There is a web page mentioned for workshop and lecture information and reviews of her other titles.
Dweck examines how our conscious and unconscious thoughts affect us, and how something as simple as wording can have a powerful impact on our ability to improve. We know that there are many obstacles in the way of change, including past trauma, ingrained habits and an environment that often reinforces the status quo and is therefore hostile to change. That is the real challenge. They exhibit similar symptoms but have completely different personalities and coping styles. One loves company and being assisted, while the other has resisted any help.
I was interested in reading this book as I can see my set way of thinking — minimising the situation — can lead to confusion with my mother and frustration with other relatives involved in her care.
Every member of both these families has responded and grieved in their own unique way. I remember being told by a stranger when communicating with someone who experiences dementia.
It reminds us the person we used to know is still very much inside, and we need to find a way to keep connected and honour them. Caughey notes many of us might be reluctant carers who are emotionally unprepared for the role.
In some cases, we might be the only available option to provide care. Whatever the scenario, she suggests it helps to role play and take on a persona of a nurse, to come from a professional, caring and compassionate space. Caughey, who looked after her husband through dementia, realistically portrays the difficulties but is also encouraging and optimistic that in this difficult period, moments of real connection can be achieved. This book is packed full of helpful, practical suggestions for finding alternative ways to communicate.
It focuses on body language including posture and facial expression , use of language keeping it simple, reflective listening and how to express yourself , dealing with difficult situations a good dose of problem solving and tools to encourage engagement such as developing a life book.
Caughey notes people with dementia find great comfort from environments or routines that are familiar. She advocates that carers will find journaling an invaluable tool to help develop a full picture of what helps and hinders. I recommend this book to anyone supporting someone living with dementia and see it as a key read early on to help improve interpersonal relationships and the quality of life for everyone.
With a large social media following she has a lot of influence. She wants people to love themselves for who they are. The other half is filled with life-advice and her own brand of inspiration. She keeps a lot of detail to herself including only a brief mention of traumatic abuse she went through as a young girl that gives you a small window of insight into her down times.
I would love to know more about her. You get the impression Makaia and her story belong to Makaia. Makaia looks after Makaia and the message of the whole book is that self-love and healthy boundaries are what she is trying to teach us. Another theme is all the tools she utilises to try to overcome her depression. She cuts down on alcohol. I like that she outlines the Five Ways to Wellbeing as a tool for wellness.
She also includes good helpline information from the Mental Health Foundation for any readers who may need extra help. I like that the book is colourful with quotes highlighted out of the text. The photography is awesome. If you want something light, positive and inspirational this book will make a great travelling companion. The Resilient Farmer is an inspiring read about South Island farmer Doug Avery facing up to the mental and emotional challenges of farming life when there was so much outside his control.
The book is deeply personal and disarmingly honest. Doug redefines the farmer stereotype by sharing in a no holds barred way what was really going on for him during some extremely tough years. No matter what I did, I was unsuccessful. However, this is not a gloomy read. We do hear a lot about how Doug learnt to farm differently, to farm with nature, rather than against. The enduring insight I took from The Resilient Farmer is that resilience is not an individual concept, but a connected one.
It does take courage to face up to your own limitations, but Doug shows that when you do this, your strength comes from the network of people that you decide to welcome into your life. This is a rare text in which a typically minority identity is presented in an organic, natural and positive light.
Unlike the usual expectation of an LGBT storyline, where the characters face fear of coming out and navigating a world that does not accept them, Promised Land presents the opposite. They both long to be free, not because where they live is unaccepting but because their spirit for adventure surpasses the idleness of their kingdom.
Leo and Jack meet by chance on their adventure through the forest and immediately fall in love. What is interesting about this story is that there is not an obstacle to overcome, as the kingdom offers acceptance. The illustrations depict Leo and Jack, hand in hand, happy and full of life. Their sexuality does not appear as a barrier in their lives, which is a sobering and refreshing possibility to witness, images that the LGBT community need in their lives.
This text also contains another surprising aspect, which compliments the presence of diversity in Promised Land. The Prince Leo and his mother, the Queen of the Kingdom, are also characters of colour. In their world, identity is an emblem of unique power.
Like sexuality, racial and ethnic elements are not setbacks but something to celebrate simultaneously. Diversity characterises Promised Land. In this world, no one is short of it. Reading this text reminds us that control comes in many forms and if we were to situate these forms in real world events they would appear in the shape of bullying and discrimination. Jack and Leo find their harmonious world turned upside down by the evil Gideon casts over the kingdom.
Though instead of remaining idle they respond with a force that shows they will not tolerate this control, and they do so with the help and support of their fellow peers, such as their mothers, guards and other inhabitants. The key message of this text is that group effort prevails and goals can be reached. As a bookseller I find Promised Land to be a unique and interesting spin of expectations.
These signature descriptions immediately pique our interest. But at the same time, why should these kinds of texts be so hard to come by? There have been a few instances where customers have asked for such books and unfortunately there is little available in the way of illustrated literature targeted at a younger audience. This needs to change. A book contains themes, meanings and ideas that can swiftly alter our experience by the mere fact of being in print. This can be found in our beloved picture books.
But what if these narratives do not suit everyone? Do and can others exist? I believe this is the time to publish more LGBT themed literature, especially for a younger audience, as we are living in an era of increasing acceptance. Exposure to positive LGBT narratives will instill a greater perspective for us all — the younger the better.
And I am so happy Promised Land exists. The back-story behind the publication of Promised Land deserves a lot of attention. Writers Adam Reynolds and Chaz Harris expressed a need to write something that their eight-year-old selves needed. In their kickstarter statement, they wrote:. As such, we felt there should be more stories like that, and so we wrote one together". We all understand the desire to see our own narratives portrayed in literature and media. As an LGBT person I will always want to read characters like myself and will never lose the feeling of wanting more than what is generally available.
Furthermore, the real world back-story of Promised Land compliments the story that takes place within the picture book, which primarily concerns the theme of responsibility. The fact that the collaborative team behind this book reached their goal shows how needed Promised Land really is. Promised Land is a book that warms the heart.
It instills a sense of faith that a world of acceptance is possible and not so far away. This book is not only a "picture" book intended for a younger audience but for everyone, young and old. Community effort goes a long way and nothing can be done alone. New Zealand Psychological Society. This book bursts with colour, creativity and the main character's contagious enthusiasm. Raffi feels different from the other boys in his class as he doesn't like noise or rough play.
My 9-year-old son doesn't participate in combative team sports at his school; he, like Raffi, seeks out a gentler crowd. When Raffi seeks solace and is looking for a peaceful spot in the playground he comes across a teacher knitting.
Raffi is drawn to the colours of the scarf she's knitting and the endless possibilities this skill would allow in terms of expressing his creativity. The teacher offers to teach him to knit and so his journey of self-discovery begins and he uses his new passion, flair and creativity to bring colour and style to the school play — and wins much admiration along the way.
Besides the obvious theme of breaking out of gender roles, I also enjoyed the associated themes. Raffi is incredibly curious and shows real grit sticking with learning a tricky new skill. In the positive psychology field there is a state known as flow, where one is fully immersed in a feeling of energised focus and enjoyment in the process of an activity.
You feel like Raffi achieves this as he is totally absorbed and knits everywhere and every chance he can and, most importantly, this also buffers him from a few taunts. He learns to trust his instincts and he starts to see value in being different.
Raffi asks his mum many questions including if he is strange for feeling different and because he likes to knit, sew and sing. It did also make me think we should all look out for those kids in our communities that do not have such loving supports, without these feeling different as Raffi did, would be a much more isolating experience. Lastly, Raffi is a wonderfully thoughtful soul, contributing to the school play and making gifts for his family.
I think kids seeing these behaviours and emotional literacy skills portrayed in a positive light is great, for example Raffi showing affection for his parents, striking up an inquisitive conversation with the teacher, working through his emotions with his mother and him thinking of ways he can contribute.
The author, Dawn Huebner, is a clinical psychologist who specialises in the treatment of anxiety in children. In this book, she does a great job of sharing some of the therapeutic strategies grounded in cognitive behaviour therapy CBT and acceptance and commitment therapy ACT in a practical, easy-to-read and "light" way. The book is for 9—year-olds and is well pitched for this age group.
So, if you asked me, "do you think this book would help a 9—year-old with their worry and anxiety? But as Huebner says, read it with your child, stay with them and support them with remembering the strategies and putting it all into practice. Opportunities to talk about worries are always going to get a thumbs up from me. Reviewed by Anna Mowat, who works predominantly as part of the All Right? Wellbeing campaign in Otautahi, where she is based.
She also delivers Incredible Years parenting courses for the Ministry of Education and is currently working on a Cure Kids research project to create support for parents whose children have emotional regulation issues.
The book follows Caleb, a teenager in his last year of high school, and his experiences going through and coming to terms with mental illness. I have the basics: Donuhue writes as Caleb in the first person and in a poetic style that powerfully captures his experiences.
It expresses those moments when are our thoughts are not fluid narratives; moments of fear, dread and disconnect. Because Everything is Right but Everything is Wrong is a beautifully written and important book. I would absolutely recommend this book. Listen to an interview with the author, Erin Donohue.
Aza lives with anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder OCD. Green has spoken openly of his own experiences with mental illness, and his decades of reflection on what this experience really is, combined with his sharp eye for the details of what it means to be human have paid off with a fully-realised character who lives with mental illness and is so much more than her diagnoses.
Aza is bright, curious and capable of deep self-absorption combined with moments of great empathy for others. The plot starts off slowly and then rips along.
It is, at times, very theatrical, but so is adolescence. The characters crackle into life, preternaturally eloquent, able to distil complex philosophical ideas into quippy sentences, but nevertheless complex, flawed and likeable.
They wonder if they are real, if they can control their own thoughts or actions, if what they think or do really matters. They also do their homework, bicker, fall in love and write fanfiction. Sometimes this book made for very intense reading. Aza compulsively self-harms, and that makes for difficult reading. Sometimes I needed to take a break, but it was never far from my thoughts and I was eager to finish it.
I went back and forth on whether I would recommend this book to a young person who experiences mental illness. Ultimately, I think I would, because being a teenager is a fundamentally lonely experience for many, and I remember well the comfort of recognising parts of myself in the pages of a book. I also remember what it meant at the time to be taken seriously, and John Green never fails to take young people and their hopes, dreams and worries seriously and kindly. A warning though, the self-harm is graphic and specific and unusual enough to leave an impression.
There is humour and warmth here, but it is, ultimately, a dark book. There is no shiny, happy ending tied neatly in a bow, but there is an ending — a surprising one.
I really enjoyed it. Just about everybody knows a person who is on the autistic spectrum. Children living with autism often feel or act differently to other kids, but the great thing about All My Stripes is it not only stresses the unique gifts that we all have to offer, but also lets kids with autism and their parents, caregivers, teachers and siblings know that kids on the spectrum have something to contribute to the world too. The book is fantastic for using in the classroom or kindergartens so other kids can understand what it is like to have autism and how something like the feel of paint can upset or cause issues for someone who has sensory processing issues for instance.
The book has a great reading guide and note for parents and caregivers at the end. Not only does All My Stripes break down barriers, it promotes discussion which, in a classroom of primary school aged kids is a great thing especially when trying to get kids to understand something as complex as the autistic spectrum.
This book is a guide to living with intense grief and finding your way through, without letting grief take over. Is this book useful? Yes, I think it is. I live with grief myself, having lost my son and sister to suicide in recent years. My resistance focuses mostly around thinking — yeah well, the research is all very well ha!
And there is value in feeling the pain, even as we heal. Guess what, grief fucking hurts, it just does. It is what it is. No getting around it. You grieve because you loved. But I agree with Lucy — while unavoidable, grief is not something you want to leave in control of your life. Grief can cause damage and dammit, grief is sneaky. It permeates everything and causes havoc in subtle and not so subtle ways.
Strategies for dealing with it are very useful and this is what this book offers. You can read this book chapter by chapter or dip in and out as you please. Or ask someone you trust to read it to you and help you with the exercises it suggests. As time goes on, the way we look back and understand our grief and the way it works can change.
Likewise, scientific perspectives can shift. I think it would be a fascinating conversation. Yes, it is compassionate and offers thoughtful personal observations with well-researched perspectives.
Do or believe everything it says? As Lucy notes, everyone grieves differently and no two bereavement experiences are the same. This book is part of a series that introduces cognitive behavioural therapy CBT skills to kids to help them deal with stress, anxiety and anger.
The author, Kate Collins-Donnelly has worked as a therapist, psychologist, criminologist and anger management consultant based in the UK for many years. She aims to provide the information in a 'simple, activity-filled, easily readable and interesting way'.
I think she achieves this especially with the workbook format. The worksheets are set in a wider context by including an introduction for parents and professionals about evidence- based CBT. It also includes safety guidelines noting when people start to explore their anger it may raise some difficult issues and she encourages the reader to seek support. In this version for young people, which she states is suitable for children aged 10 and over, it has some examples from her real clients aged between 13—18 years.
They refer to complex life issues such as a year-old boyfriend cheating, a year-old being picked up from the police station and a teen abusing a family member who has come out as gay. I am not so sure my son, who is almost 10, would relate to these scenarios, though I guess it would give him a sense that uncontrolled anger can cause problems and get you in trouble!
This book would be most suitable for young people who have more serious anger issues. I hurt her really bad once. Collins-Donnelly has also penned a similar workbook for younger children called Starving the Anger Gremlin for children aged 5 —9. This has more of a focus on emotions and develops skills through a range of puzzles and drawing activities.
I think both books impart valuable CBT skills that help young people identify unhelpful thought patterns and behaviours and give them tools to move towards more healthy ones. This therapy modality is accepted as effective and the author has clinical training. The choice of which book to read may not depend so much on physical age, but the emotional age of the child and what issues they may be experiencing.
These are a series of illustrated children's picture books, aimed at year-olds, designed to help children deal with confidence issues, change, loss and grief, managing anxiety and fears, bullying and worries. So my daughters and I dived straight in. But the story became dark, as did the pictures. I then sought to read, by myself, The Grand Wolf … who dies. I mean, I get it, this stuff is real for some kids.
But the plot or focus, eg, death, or in the previous book, fear, is developed quickly in these stories. It comes as a bit of a shock. I am very impressed. I feel this should be included with the actual book! And I would know everything to do and say when my daughter begins to worry about the Shadow Monsters actual existence!
I think overall most of these books have some good ideas but some of the stories and images could scare children. I liked that the shadow book tried to teach kids that you can use your imagination to feel better magic and less scared, to make your fears go away. The book on bullying is a great story with a great meaning.
It teaches kids that if you are bullied to stay strong and that you can beat the bad feelings and still have fun. In the one about worries, that baby dragon has so many worries bottled up inside him and it makes him feel heavy. This book teaches kids to share their worries with people, overall a good story.
Feelings are a big topic in our household. Our household consists of myself and my two tamariki, a year-old with an awesome Asperger's brain and a delightfully demonstrative 6-year-old.
Feel a Little contains 14 poems, each one about a different feeling with illustrations to match. The day I brought the book home I suggested to my year-old he may like to read some of the poems to his sister. Much grumbling ensued, but he was persuaded to read just one of his choice. So he started with Happy: It may have been the bright, bold illustrations, or the easy upbeat rhythms, but many more poems were recited, one after the other with much enthusiasm. However my 6-year-old lost interest quickly, perhaps a few too many feelings being described "at her" all at once.
A few days later when I sat down with her one-on-one and focused on one poem she engaged better but still struggled with some of the more complex ideas. Feel a Little clearly has an older target audience in mind. I found many of the poems beautifully captured the essence of an emotion, the physical sensations as well as the nuance of how people may experience a feeling. However, that was also a wonderful aspect of the book, as it enabled reflection and discussion with children about how they personally experience feelings.
What words would they use to describe an emotion? My year-old really liked how some of the poems gave some advice about how to manage emotions such as Angry:. But apart from that I think the book is a fantastic way to get children and adults to reflect more about their emotional world. Giving children a way to explore, discuss and express their feelings, in my opinion, is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children and Feel a Little provides an excellent medium to do just that.
I first came across the resource on The Spinoff, in an article by Stack called How depression saved my life. Stark frankly detailed his experience of depression simply and without embellishment and his article resonated with me and the people I shared it with. Stack has recovered and now has a job he loves, financial security and is surrounded by great people. I clicked over to the website, handed over my email address and was immediately emailed a free copy of the resource.
I read it in one big gulp. The resource is full of hope and positivity without being condescending — a tricky balance to achieve in my experience. It never lets you forget depression is manageable and recovery is possible, and reading it was a really uplifting experience. All the advice is scientifically-proven and includes some background information about why, for example, getting sunlight is important, and then includes tips to put that advice into action.
I particularly appreciated the inclusion of advice for those who are in debt debt and mental distress often go hand-in-hand as being in financial difficulties can place a huge burden on mental health. Fuck Depression is a free resource. Download it at fkdepression. To save you time reading all the way through this review, let me just sum up at the beginning by saying I really, really liked this book and recommend it for professionals, parents and kids.
I do believe this book has what it takes to turn worriers into warriors and the writer deserves a big high five or fist pump! So why am I such a fan? The writer, Dr Dan Peters, tells us about his anxiety, he is deeply empathetic and his experience helps to normalise anxiety. Peters leaves no leaf unturned in explaining absolutely everything! Peters begins at the biological goings-on moving through to the ways and reasons we worry. The idea Peters gives that the Worry Monster is a bully, is a great message to start from and work with.
However, this might be the clue for older children that this book is for a younger audience, so be clear that this is an "idea", and may be useful for your older child, but all the other strategies are the same for any person child or adult wanting to overcome anxiety, and importantly, they work. Peters extensively explains the effects of worry, especially on behaviour. I love that these plans start with something a child knows they can manage, then they move their way up to more challenging tasks or situations.
I have recommended this book so many times since reading it. Conversations for Change is an amazing new resource that reTHiNK has created as part of Like Minds, Like Mine to challenge stigma and discrimination toward mental health issues and encourage social inclusion. It's comprised of a set of five activities to use with groups of young people aged 15—24 and is written so that teachers, youth leaders or young leaders can safely and effectively facilitate it.
Although I read through the physical copy, it's free and easily downloadable from their website which means accessibility is not an issue. All learning styles considered Looking through the contents, what stood out to me was the fact that all learning styles were considered when compiling and creating the information.
You'll find audio, visual, and practical activities and resources to utilise alongside the written content. The team at reTHiNK has also done a good job at ensuring that activities are written in a way that all age groups can understand and engage with, which sets it apart from similar resources. As a young person myself, I feel that this resource will help educate those in high school to be more mindful and aware of things that they say, while also informing the older generation about the real issues we're facing and to not just brush these things lightly.
One key thing that comes across is that the resource represents the New Zealand community. This comes across through the real life stories and quotes that are used throughout. I would highly recommend individuals who work with groups to tap into this resource to help educate people about mental health and wellbeing. I hope that this resource will also help those going through tough times to realise there are places and people who can help them and that asking for help is a courageous thing.
It started a great conversation about why you would stop the sun, what would happen, and if you needed help who were the people you could ask for help. The discussion then flowed to making a stand when you knew things were right and believing in yourself regardless of what people said about you and your goals.
We asked the kids to give us the Bryan and Bobby world famous book rating system we use at our reading group — thumbs up or thumbs down. One boy proudly stated to us: This autobiography was gifted to the Mental Health Foundation's library and is quite an interesting read as Colegate writes well.
The book follows his immigration to New Zealand in the s and the journey of his family as they support each other through periods of mental unwellness. Colegate's mother and son both experienced schizophrenia, and Colegate himself was diagnosed with bipolar in his mid-twenties.
He writes in more detail about his mother and son than his own mental health journey, but it would have been nice to know more about his experience with bipolar. However, you do get to know about him through his storytelling and you learn what's important to him, which I assume are the same things which aided his recovery and kept him well. Threads that emerge include; humour, curiosity, being with family, connecting with people, whakapapa, travel and adventure.
The book is sprinkled with family photos from the family album, eulogies and insights from his children and you get a real sense of the unity of his family despite some difficult times. Colegate describes his wife Ann as the rock of the household through difficult times and we learn she also brought this strength to community work for which she received a Civic Award for her contribution to the Like Minds, Like Mine public awareness programme. Even though this is more a memoir than a book about bipolar, that in itself shows that mental illness does not need to define you or limit your ability to lead a rich life.
My understanding is Colegate is in his eighties and still giving presentations and advocating that people talk about mental health issues and seek help. I'm sure the work Colegate and his family have done over the years to advocate and encourage others as a result of their life experiences has impacted positively on many. These words from someone who had experienced traumatic stress piqued my interest in reading it.